Is Your Mental Health Suffering During the Holidays? Identifying Triggers and Strategies for Coping

societyofcare • November 28, 2023

It's that time of year again - holiday decorations are up, festive music is playing, and there's a sense of excitement in the air. But for some people, this time of year can also bring about feelings of stress, anxiety, and even depression.

If you’re one of the many who find this time of year challenging, know that you’re not alone. (Remember, it’s okay not to be okay, even during the ‘happiest time of the year’).

Keep reading, as we delve into the reasons why the holidays can exacerbate symptoms of depression and anxiety, and importantly, share strategies to help you manage your mental health during this season.

Common Triggers During the Holidays

What Makes the Holidays Harder?

The holiday season, despite being filled with joy and warmth for many, can be a tough time for individuals dealing with mental health issues. The reasons for this are complex and varied—no two persons’ experiences are exactly alike.

However, there are a few common triggers that often come into play. Understanding these triggers is the first step towards devising effective coping strategies.

Let’s explore these:

  1. Increased Social Interactions: The holiday season is often characterized by an increase in social events and gatherings. For those with social anxiety, this can be overwhelming and trigger episodes of distress.
  2. Financial Stress: Buying gifts, traveling, and hosting events can put a financial strain on individuals, leading to increased anxiety and stress levels.
  3. Family Dynamics: For some, holidays mean spending time with family, which can be a source of stress, especially if relationships are strained or complicated.
  4. Unrealistic Expectations: The pressure to create the “perfect” holiday can contribute to feelings of inadequacy and disappointment, fueling depressive symptoms.
  5. Reflections on the Past Year: The end of the year can lead to introspection, causing people to reflect on their achievements and failures, which can be a trigger for depression.
  6. Disrupted Routines: Holidays often disrupt our regular routines, such as sleeping, eating, and exercising habits. For many, this can lead to increased feelings of anxiety and depressive symptoms.
  7. Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) : Many people experience SAD, a type of depression that comes and goes with the seasons, usually starting in the late fall and early winter and going away during the spring and summer.

Remember, understanding your triggers is the first step towards managing your mental health effectively. 

It’s not about eliminating these triggers – after all, many are inevitable during the holiday season. Instead, it’s about recognizing them, preparing for them, and developing coping mechanisms.

Coping Strategies for Maintaining Mental Health During the Holidays:

In this section, we’ll delve into a set of practical and supportive coping strategies. 

These are designed to help you maintain mental health balance during the holiday season. Remember, this time of year can be challenging, but with the right tools and mindset, it is entirely possible to navigate it in a healthy and positive way.

Let’s explore some strategies you can employ to keep your mental health intact over the holiday season.

  1. Practice Self-Care: This is paramount to maintaining good mental health during the holiday season. Make time for activities you enjoy and which make you feel relaxed and happy. It could be reading a good book, taking a walk in nature, listening to your favorite music, or anything that brings you peace. Prioritizing your needs is not selfish – it’s necessary. So, give yourself the care and attention you deserve in order to replenish your mental energy.
  1. Stay Connected: Reach out to people who provide positive reinforcement in your life. It could be a trusted friend, a family member, a mental health professional, or even a support group. Maintaining these connections can help you feel grounded and provide a much-needed outlet for your feelings. Remember, it’s okay to share your struggles. You’re not alone, and others may be feeling the same way you are during this season.
  1. Give Yourself Grace: Don’t let the ‘perfect’ be the enemy of the ‘good’. The holidays may not look like a scene straight out of a movie, and that’s perfectly fine. It’s important to set realistic expectations and to accept that things may not go as planned. Embrace imperfections , let go of the need to control everything, and try to find joy in simplicity. Remember to be kind to yourself, acknowledging your efforts and celebrating small victories along the way.
  1. Limit Alcohol Consumption: While it might be tempting to indulge in holiday spirits, excessive alcohol can actually exacerbate feelings of depression and anxiety. It’s important to consume alcohol in moderation and to consider healthier substitutes when possible.
  1. Establish Healthy Sleep Habits: Adequate sleep is vital for mental health. The hustle and bustle of the holidays can disturb sleep patterns, so strive to maintain a regular sleep schedule. Try to create a relaxing bedtime routine and ensure your sleeping environment is dark, quiet, and cool.

Setting Boundaries: A Holiday Gift to Your Mental Health

Setting boundaries is critical during the holiday season. It can be tempting to fall into people-pleasing habits, stretch yourself thin, and commit to more activities than you can handle. However, it’s crucial to remember that it’s okay to say ‘no’.

Start by having open, honest conversations about your needs. Express your feelings calmly and assertively, emphasizing that these boundaries are necessary for your well-being. It’s crucial to be specific about what you can and can’t do, and what kind of support you expect from them.

Don’t be afraid to ask for space if you need it. In some cases, this might involve physically distancing yourself by spending time alone. In others, it might mean taking a break from certain topics of conversation that you find stressful or triggering.

Remember, it’s okay to reaffirm your boundaries if they are not being respected. People may not immediately understand or remember your boundaries, and that’s okay. Patience and consistent communication are key. Lastly, don’t forget to respect the boundaries of others as well. Understanding and mutual respect are the foundations of healthy relationships, and they become even more important during the hectic holiday season.

Conclusion:

In conclusion, the holiday season can pose various challenges for those managing mental health issues. But with strategic planning, setting boundaries, and maintaining healthy routines, it’s possible to navigate this time of year successfully. 

Remember, it’s perfectly okay to prioritize your needs and seek support when required. Amidst the festivities and rush, let’s not forget the essence of this season – to celebrate love, kindness, and inner peace. 

After all, taking care of your mental health is the most precious gift you can give to yourself and your loved ones.

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